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Under the Walnut Tree, a poem by Lynn Martin
Gratefulness: A Source of Strength - German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer reflects on the transformative power of gratefulness during grief.
Sister José Hobday talks about living life "to the hilt." (1:32 Video)
Learning to Die, an article by Brother David Steindl-Rast. "Whenever we do give up a person or a thing or a position, when we truly give it up, we die – yes, but we die into greater aliveness."
Bonnie's Bridge - This passage from Paul Bennett's Loving Grief, accompanied by Elaine Mansfield's reflections, offers the blessing of feeling your own way through grief that only your heart can process.
O Spirit of Life and Renewal - Do you ever feel that you have wintered long enough? Let this poem by Jane Rzepka lift your spirits.
Running in the Rain, from the Rain, to the Rain, an essay by James Behrens. Behrens describes one possible response when love hurts us.
The How of Happiness, by Sonja Lyubomirsky. In these excerpts from her book, Lyubomirsky explores with scientific data what determines happiness and how gratitude fits in.
The Landscape that Laughs
Sun Trail, a poem by Dale Biron. How do we each respond to happiness? Can we gratefully embrace the gifts life provides?
Laughter, a poem by Dale Biron. Who among us has not dealt with our share of grief and sorrow? Perhaps it was some profound disappointment around a goal we did not reach, sadness when a loved one passed away, or anguish over world events. This poem speaks of that time when healing occurs.
Any Morning, a poem by William Stafford. Give yourself permission to rest in a moment of simple pleasure, free from judgment, through Stafford’s poetic hints.
The Now That Does Not
Pass Away, an interview with Brother David Steindl-Rast
Praying the Great Dance Brother David describes ways to be "anchored in lasting joy" through prayer.
Setting the Heart to Gratefulness, by Susan Mazrolle Gratefulness can’t make pain go away. And maybe it’s not meant to.
The Idea Journeying with Us,
by Ralph Waldo Emerson
Great Longing, a Qbox answer by Norman Fischer. Human longing is endless, and only something equally endless can satisfy it.
Lingering Grief, a Qbox answer by Patricia Carlson
Talking to Grief, by Denise Levertov
Coming to Terms with the Sorrow of Being, a Qbox answer by Linda Fisher. To relieve our suffering we must learn and experience what we have never been taught: That joy and sorrow are not opposites, but inherently interdependent.
Joyful Suffering, a Qbox answer by Brother David. Sooner or later, to live means to suffer; but if you live gratefully you can through suffering become more creative and more truly yourself.
Griefwalker - This 70-minute documentary introduces us to Stephen Jenkinson, the leader of a palliative care counseling team at Toronto's Mount Sinai Hospital, and his awareness of death as the crucible in which our love of life is born.
Stand in Another Place - In this video, Nancy Slonim Aroni shows how her rich, many-layered life could not be so without her anguish and sorrow alongside her love and joy.
Irene - If you need a dose of exuberant joy, listen to this music video (3+ min.) by Sofia Jannok, a Swedish/Sami Yoik/Pop/Jazz singer-songwriter.
Sounds of Kindness in Tucson - See how kindness -
especially unexpected compassionate acts – helps heal grief. (Video, 2:06)
The Ashes Project - "Why do we struggle to talk about loss when it is life's only certainty?" asks Anne J. Koller in this visual memoir of grief, portraying its many faces and inviting us to share our stories, too.
For Katherine - Poet Conrad Hilberry reads his poem honoring his daugher (1952-1961) with sorrow, love, and the detail worthy of sentiments so universal.
Blessings - Laura Story sings about mercies in disguise.
"Even the terrible things..." - Mary Schmich writes for the Chicago Tribune about her mother's insights on gratitude becoming clearer near Thanksgiving.
Comfort Zone Camp - A physical place where grieving children can find a voice, a place and a community in which to heal and grow. For an online place to learn and share about grief, visit their associated site Hello Grief.
I Find Your Love - Beth Nielson Chapman's song comes from sorrow's edge with trust, love, and comfort.
Letting Go - Try this online ritual of forgiveness that uses mindful action as a tool to break through tightly-held patterns of thought and behavior.
Beauty Crowds Me - "When words are inadequate, music can provide the language of the soul." This collection of exquisite healing music benefits listeners as well as the hospice center to which all the proceeds go.
Why Are We Happy? - And why aren't we happy? Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert gives a TED lecture about our "psychological immune system," challenging the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want.
Special Memories - Two sisters reminisce about their last Thanksgiving dinner with their mother in this oral history from NPR's StoryCorps program.
Project Happiness - Students from California, Tibet, and Nigeria discover the connection between ethics and happiness through the Dalai Lama's writings, conversations with each other, and a private meeting with His Holiness.
On Losing Everything - Without lapsing into platitudes, filmmaker David Hoffman talks about almost everything he owned in a fire that destroyed his home, office and 30 years of passionate collecting. He looks back at a life that's been wiped clean in an instant -- and looks forward.
Caring Connections, a program of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO), provides information and resources for those experiencing grief and loss.
CarePages offers free, personal webpages to connect family and friends in a support network during illness and injury.
Griefnet.org is an Internet community of people dealing with grief, death, and major loss. The site offer email support groups, resources for kids, an opportunity to create and view memorials, and much more.
Through a Glass Darkly: This Sun magazine interview of Miriam Greenspan by Barbara Platek - both of whom are psychotherapists and authors - explores the "emotional alchemy" through which dark emotions like grief, fear, and despair can be transformed.
Loving What Is: When we argue with reality, we cut short our chances at happiness. Byron Katie offers a practical form of inquiry that helps set us free.
Hugs and Hope: Children fighting for their lives have very little to smile about. You can change that by gifts of friendship.
Random Acts of Kindness offer us one sure route to happiness.
Being with Dying, by Roshi Joan Halifax. Through inspiring and practical teachings, Buddhist teacher Joan Halifax provides a source of wisdom for all those who are charged with a dying person's care, facing their own death, or wishing to explore and contemplate the transformative power of the dying process.
Breaking the Drought, by Stephen Levine. "Here are poems of the heart that speak directly to our spirit today. Anyone who reads them will be quickened and touched. Both timely and timeless, these visions of grace are like nectar to the soul." (Lama Surya Das) At Ecoversity, you can watch videos of Levine reading selected poems from this powerful new book.
Gratefulness, the Heart of Prayer: An Approach to Life in Fullness, by Brother David Steindl-Rast. Through emptiness as well as fullness, Brother David shows us the way to say “yes” to belonging.
Dark Nights of the Soul: A Guide to Finding Your Way Through Life's Ordeals, by Thomas Moore. “When it comes to spiritual growth, we humans are solar-seeking beings; eager for the bright lights of clarity and the bliss of illumination. Paradoxically, we all need to walk through the shadow of the dark night in order to discover a life worth living.” (Gail Hudson, reviewer for Amazon.com)
Lives of Gratefulness, by Dale A. Johnson. Read stories of people who have found, in Dale's words, that "Gratefulness will not take away suffering, but transform it into joy."
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, by Pema Chodron. How can we capture the fundamental happiness that’s always within our reach? With a universal touch, Tibetan Buddhist abbot Pema Chodron writes about loneliness, death, and the love that will not die.
Gratitude Works: Open Your Heart To Love, by Katherine Scherer, Eileen Bodoh. These daily readings about gratitude increase our awareness of the many wonders of life and the interconnectedness of gratefulness and happiness.
A Short Guide to a Happy Life, by Anna Quindlen. Short and sweet, this book serves as a reminder that “you are the only person alive who has sole custody of your life.”
The Bond Between Women: A Journey to Fierce Compassion, by China Galland. If you’ve ever felt that you need a wailing wall in order to respond fully to the suffering of the world, this book may provide not only the outlet you need but the strength and hope to make a difference.
Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World - Through story, poetry and insightful reflections, Francis Weller shows how we are ripened in times of loss; how we can be not only be healed, but also become more alive through the rites of grief
On Angel’s Eve: Making the Most of Your Final Time Together, by Garnette Arledge.
A warm, personal guide to helping loved ones through their last hours.
ANGeL's goal is to offer you through this website an immediate and intimate experience of living gratefully. In selecting topic resources, as elsewhere, we favor quality over quantity. This page is not meant to be a directory of related websites and organizations. Rather, we have selected a few specific links and readings that we believe are most helpful in getting you in touch with your experience. Of course, the Internet is vast and our knowledge is limited; so if you know of a link or a book that is more helpful than what's listed, be sure to let us know.