I wanted to share my experience with a medium I contacted. Many people have recommended her and she is the real deal! I lost my mom and then miscarried twice, the last one at 14 weeks, after seeing the heartbeat and picture of my baby. I was at my wits end. The medium, Ocallah, was so easy to talk to. She was compassionate and sensitive to my crying jags on the phone. She validated SO much. Information she could not have possibly researched came through ... personal things no one would know! I came away from this with such a healing and sence of peace. I wanted to share in case anyone else was looking for this approch. Her website is ocallah.com and email is ocallah@aol.com God bless you all! Thanks for listening. Lynn
- Lynn, Alabama   12 May 2008

My heart goes out to Ron, as he moves forward in his life with grief over losing his wife suddenly a year ago. May spring give new hope to his life.
- MW,   7 May 2008

My husband and I lost our daughter suddenly on 24/4/08 she was only 30 years old. We laid her to rest yesterday 5/5/08 and the pain of our loss cannot be expressed and the hole in our hearts cannot be measured. Our Becky (Rebbecca) left behind her husband of two years, three sisters, a brother in law, two nephews, nan, pop, uncles, aunts and cousins. We will always love her and miss her more than she will ever know. Our tears will never stop flowing... the pain of loss is constantly with us. Love you deeply Beck OXOX
- Golda, Australia 6 May 2008   6 May 2008

My worries are to many to mention here. Music has gotten me through a lot of tough times so I just wanted to share a line from one of my favorite songs. "There's poetry in sickness. Life is beautiful and cruel, that's just the way it is" The Devil Keeps Grinning -Gary Jules
- L, Ky   5 May 2008

Hi my heart goes out to all of you suffering loss. Right now, the man I love has just cut off contact, and I don't know why. I think he's going to end the relationship - I think i should end the relationship! I'm thinking about the good times and the not good times together. The waiting to hear from him seems to have brought some old, really deep grief into expression. The place I feel this grief most deeply says it is sick of doing without. I think it means of doing without love. I realised suddently how jealous I felt of my boss with her close relationship with her mother and her own children - experiences I've never had. I;m spending time with the feelings, and letting the tears come. I want to be able to give myself that love I need. Ruth
- Ruth, England   2 May 2008

My little sister, Rosie, passed away on 3/17/08 at only 48 years old and my heart is broken. As someone who had Down Syndrome, Rosie had many challenges throughout her life but always held her head high and did her best. Her method of communication was through hugs and they were her signature statement. My family is devistated without her but we are somewhat comforted that her personal struggles are over. Rosie's motives were always pure and her love was radiant. She was the most honest and genuine person I will ever know. We love you, Rosie, our little princess.
- Vanessa, CT   29 Apr 2008

You can get more interactive grief support at deathsupport.com We are fairly new website and are also looking for people who are willing to help others
- Dominick, usa   24 Apr 2008

My husband died from Emphysema, three years ago. I miss him so much still. Smiling
- Marge W, IN   17 Apr 2008

I hurt, but I will heal & go on. Grief is a solitary thing, individually felt. Sometimes I have strong days, sometimes a bad day.
- nby, usa   14 Apr 2008

Hi, An 86-year-old minister in Hamden, Conn., lost his wife of 61 years last Mother’s Day. To help him cope, he started to “talk” with her (earth-to-heaven communication, he calls it) and thus developed a method of feeling connected to a deceased loved one. Please visit the Rev. John Abbott’s website (http://earth-heaven.org/index.htm). Even if you don’t believe as he does, it’s an interesting site created by Abbott, who worked for years at the Connecticut Hospice – the first hospice in the nation. Thank you.
- JR, Hamden, Conn   12 Apr 2008

My Mother Dorothy's birthday is on St. Patrick's Day. She named me after the saint. She died on July 6, '08. I still miss her so much. She was a wonderful mother. We shared 61 consecutive years together. I've painted her portrait in her honor. This has helped to ease my pain. However, I still feel so torn up without her.
- Pat B-W, New Mexico   12 Mar 2008

Today i was very elated that i got to buy a new set of tires for my car that i really needed and so with the sweat from my forehead and lots of hours working i got enough money to buy them i work very hard and i also go to school which is why i feel very proud of myself that i did it by my self with out my parents help my own money but then again i didnlt get to see my boyfriend this week because he stayed in my hometown with his family to celebrate his gramothers and aunts b-days but ended up visiting a friend of his to invite him over to his celebration and ended up getting beat up thank god my boyfriend is fine but his bestfriend isn;t he got stabbed and though he just stiches they really could have gotten hurt or worse shoot! But i thank god he is ok and if all goes well he will come next week to visit me!!
- E.C, Texas   3 Mar 2008

Today i was very elated that i got to buy a new set of tires for my car that i really needed and so with the sweat from my forehead and lots of hours working i got enough money to buy them i work very hard and i also go to school which is why i feel very proud of myself that i did it by my self with out my parents help my own money but then again i didnlt get to see my boyfriend this week because he stayed in my hometown with his family to celebrate his gramothers and aunts b-days but ended up visiting a friend of his to invite him over to his celebration and ended up getting beat up thank god my boyfriend is fine but his bestfriend isn;t he got stabbed and though he just stiches they really could have gotten hurt or worse shoot! But i thank god he is ok and if all goes well he will come next week to visit me!!
- E.C, Texas   3 Mar 2008

i have an old friend who i feel i will not see again. it is very hard not to be able to control this.
- haj, aiv   2 Mar 2008

HT, England: Let me just say how sorry I feel for all of you, my heart goes out to you. I am going to light a candle for Oliver, his parents and grandparents, and I will keep you in my prayers. May you find peace and comfort!
- Juliana, Austria   19 Feb 2008

We are suffering such sadness.My sons and his girlfriend have experiences the death of their unborn child at 7 months pregnant. He should have been born on 11th April 2008 but was stillborn on February 17th 2008. We have taken photographs of him he looks absolutely beautiful. We are all so so heartbroken. Oliver would have been the first grandchild on both sides of the family. We had everything ready for him. I have never experienced such utter sadness in my whole life.
- HT, England   18 Feb 2008

Dear Lisa. Thank you for your kind words. I sympathize with your loss as well. So sorry Shaun, Steve and anyone else who is going thru a grieving process. It's hard. Sometimes I don't think I can go on, but the next day always shows up, Thank God!! I am suffering with the same thing that took my son, and God has shown me and continues to show me new ways to celebrate life and all that it has to offer. My Gratitude Family has pulled me thru many times and I am so appreciative of each and every one of them. Please if anyone has the need go to Grateful Living Practice and join our family. We are about love, life, differences, glory, prayer, sameness, laughter, forgiveness, joy, sadness...emotions. Love LW
- LW, NY   5 Feb 2008

Dear LW, Shaun, Steve -- isn't it amazing when you walk around your world and realize that any one of all the people you see around you have suffered some great loss, too? Steve, I had also recently found my great love, and after a year of opening up to deeper and deeper levels of understanding and joy and struggle with differences, he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died a month later. I know that I will think of him daily for years to come, Shaun, as you will your father. I can't imagine suffering multiple losses of this magnitude in a year, much less one of my children, and my heart broke open when I read LW's posting. I know that for me, gratefulness and grief are portals that work together toward transformation, if I let them open me, over and over and over again. Blessings to all of you
- Lisa, Santa Cruz CA   2 Feb 2008

My father passed away from pancreatic cancer in Nov 2006. I'm grateful I had the chance to tell my father that I loved him. It wasn't easy for us to express feelings given the background we came from but I'm glad I was able to spend more time with him before passing away. I love him and think of him every day. If anyone wants to talk: d9717781 AT qub DOT ac DOT UK
- Shaun D, Ireland   30 Jan 2008

Dear Ruth, Oh yes, I know that feeling, having been expelled from my home country at age 8. I think we should not go into details here, as the Forum has been established for discussion. I have explained to Steve how you can get there, and I should so much like to welcome you to "Grateful Living Practice". I think you will find it very helpful, as you can meet a group of kind and knowledgeable people, who share their sorrows as well as their joys. So long!
- Juliana, Austria   30 Jan 2008

Juliana, thanks for your last post. Got a question out there for anyone who's been in my situation...How do you get past the point where you feel as if you will be sideswiped at any moment? Or your feet pulled out from under you? Things are going good but I always live on edge, so to speak. Will that feeling ever go away & what can I do, as a person, (besides praying) to put it aside. Yes, Juliana seperation anxiety has always been very difficult for me because of the abandonment of my alcoholic parents. I've always turned to my husband but I don't know if that's always good...what's your opinion? Thanks for listening & blessings to everyone!
- Ruth, United States   30 Jan 2008

Thanks Juliana, over the worst of it thanks largely to the discovery of this amazing website and its wonderful core message. Am moving soon to the Sandgate-Brighton area of Brisbane on the shores of Moreton Bay where there is a wonderful local community. I intend to promote the message of grateful living there so that the area will one day become part of the web of light which illuminates the world. Peace and blessings to you,
- Steve, Brisbane,Australia   27 Jan 2008

Hello Steve, Hopefully you are in good spirits, enjoying a restful weekend, maybe with more adventures in nature? Is it summer now in your part of the globe? I found this quote on another website: "Keep your head and your heart in the right direction and you´ll never have to worry about your feet." (Author unknown). To me, it seems worth while thinking about. Blessings to you!
- Juliana, Austria   25 Jan 2008

Hi Ruth, What you say about the separation anxiety which you find it so hard to cope with makes me wonder if it possibly goes back to an experience in your childhood. Have you ever thought of getting professional help to work through and finally let go of it? You would then be free to really enjoy the love you are given. In the meantime, my advice to you is to deal out love in little portions, so to speak, to whoever comes near you needing it. Be blessed!
- Juliana, Austria   25 Jan 2008

Juliana & Steve, thanks so much for the encouraging words. I find myself turning to this site daily just looking for something to keep me going. The separation anxiety is hard on my heart. I have a dear friend who says I am a very compassionate person but I need to learn to have compassion for myself. I'm struggling to find it these days. The tears flow daily; I just don't know how to get through some days. My daughter just called me from college with her own set of problems. Mom's giving advice but can't seem to take any of her own. I believe like you guys, that love is the mode of existence but can't understand how an individual that lives with a person who exists that way, doesn't experience it too. Anyway, just thinking out loud. My problems are small potatoes compared to some of the posts on this site. I do read & take to heart (as I believe every caring person does) each individual's situation. Thanks for the "daily" words of wisdom. Blessings to everyone!
- Ruth, United States   24 Jan 2008